It may seem like the only option, but the research says its not worth it. Settling is an ugly, depressing word. Few people would suggest outright that you should settle for less than you want and deserve in a relationship. Even Lori Gottlieb, author of Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr.

Is settling in a relationship a bad thing?

If youre hanging around waiting to find the love of your life, dont. Seriously. The notion of “settling” gets such a bad rap and the idea that it can lead to a happy, loving, fulfilling and stable relationship is not very popular. To most people, settling sounds un-romantic.

Is Settling good or bad?

Because if you want to have the infrastructure in place to have a family, settling is the way to go. Based on my observations, in fact, settling will probably make you happier in the long run, since many of those who marry with great expectations become more disillusioned with each passing year.

How do I stop settling in my relationship?

Here are five ways to stop settling and start feeling better:Stop rationalizing the poor behavior of others. Recognize that not getting what you want is not a personal curse. Recognize that being alone is not the same thing as abandonment. Become used to expressing what you desire—and say it repeatedly.More items •13 Jan 2017