First dates are often awkward, but the awkwardness is part of what makes them so exciting, Dr. Jess OReilly, relationship expert and sexologist at Astroglide, tells Bustle. When you feel nervous or unsure, it can heighten your attention and attraction; its part of what makes new love so exciting and passionate.

Is it always awkward when you first start dating?

“Relationships tend to be awkward in the beginning because you are just getting to know the person,” Texas-based psychotherapist Richard E. “Therefore, the awkwardness comes from the desire to be accepted by a person of interest.” It can be awkward — and tiring.

Is it OK to be awkward around your crush?

Being shy and awkward around your crush is totally normal. When we have feelings for another person, its easy to want to be perfect around them and naturally, that puts a lot of pressure on yourself.

How long does the awkward stage last?

The awkward stage of hair growth is that 5 to 8 month period of time when you have started growing your hair out and it is just a mess.