The idea that opposites attract in relationships is a myth. In reality, people tend to be attracted to those who are similar to themselves, as dozens of studies have shown. This could be because personality contrasts tend to stand out and become bigger over time.

Do people usually fall in love with their opposite?

The truth is that most people arent attracted to their opposites—even though it may seem that way. For starters, its important to break down what being attracted to our opposite ~actually~ means. If you were to take this literally, it would mean that you and your S.O. have zero in common.

Do opposites end up together?

Further research on complementary personalities suggest mixed results. A few studies parroted Winchs findings, but most studies, in a pool of over 300, found that the opposites largely do not attract. People are pulled to those who they share similarities with in one way or another.

Can opposites make a relationship work?

So while there is evidence that opposites can indeed create and encourage passion in a relationship, and that differences can actually sustain a couple longterm in their ability to add excitement and new shared experiences, theres also a downside.

Should you marry someone similar or different?

Although it may sound paradoxical, long-married elders agree that some differences can spice up a relationship. But not all aspects are equally important. There are many ways partners can be similar, but the elders say that one dimension is absolutely necessary: Similarity in core values.

Which personality types are compatible?

Compatibility of Myers-Briggs typesTYPECompatible TypesISFJESFP & ESTPINFJENFP, ENTP, INTJ, INFJISTPESFJ & ESTJISFPESTJ & ESFJ4 more rows•1 Apr 2021