Its because we fear rejection. Because we know that the person is not our own kind of person, we sense a higher risk of rejection coming from the person. We want to avoid rejection because we humans are generally desperate to be assured that we have the power to control our lives.
How do I stop being attracted to the wrong people?
How to Stop Making the Wrong Relationship ChoicesIdentify Your Pattern. We dont always fall for someone simply because their positive qualities compliment our own but also because their negative traits fit ours so well. Take Chances. Listen to Your Friends. Dont Listen to Your Inner Coach. Hang In There.
Why are you attracted to the wrong person?
We may feel bored with those people, people who are really caring and available. We may look down on them a little because we feel like theyre so available. Theres got to be something wrong there. Theyre not as valuable because theyre so easily available.
How do you know youre loving the wrong person?
If you find yourself in situations where you feel the need to make excuses or apologize for your partners behavior, youre probably in love with the wrong person. If this is happening in your relationship, talk to your partner about it.
Why am I attracted to men who hurt?
Trauma Bonding is when we are attracted to someone because they remind us of our past traumas. More often than not, our trauma bonds are related to unresolved aspects of our relationships with our parents, ways that we didnt feel acknowledged or validated.